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Where'd your haircut come from?

Posted on Dec 17th, 2007 by nofixedstars : assisted serendipity nofixedstars
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for December 17, 2007:

hahahahaha! my haircut is a non-haircut! i have long (waist-length) hair, which gets a trim maybe once a year. it should be more often, but i seem to find more interesting things to do with the money than using it at a salon. also factored into that negligence is the annoying way i am treated when i do venture in for a trim...the stylists always give me crap about how ratty the ends are, and they feel personally insulted when i decline to have layers cut into my mane, or bangs, or random chewed-off razor cutting, or highlights, or whatever their latest obsession is. it seems to bother them personally that i wear it up in a braided twist; they view it as not-modern, or affected, or a lack of a real styled haircut. mostly they just say how it is too, too long. they sigh over it, and shake their heads. they complain the entire time they are cutting it about how hard it is to comb out (true, and i simply don't ever comb it), how thick it is, how it won't stay where they put it. i have listened, and i don't hear this kind of fuss going on about other people's hair...they end up yanking and pulling so much that they break off lots of hair. they drench it with gobs of stinky goo in an attempt to detangle it. they say that it must take so much time to deal with it every day, with the insinuation that i am a prima donna with nothing better to do than mess about with my hair. my mother has always maintained that long hair is unprofessional and somehow inappropriate on a grown woman. the truth? it's easy to have my hair long. i wash it at night in the shower, wrap one of those microfiber towels around it, and go to bed. when i wake up, it's mostly dry, and i can either twist it up with a clip and forget about it, or brush it and braid it and forget about it. i don't own a comb, styling products, a curling/straightening iron, a blow-dryer. it takes about 5 minutes to wash, and about 5 minutes max in the morning to do. and for the zero effort and time put into it, it looks fine. when i go out at night, sometimes i let it down, and people adore it. they play with it. i get more compliments about my hair than anything else, and it's probably the aspect of my appearance that i spend the least time or thought on. go figure...so clearly, i have no motivation to get a "real" haircut!
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Amber : Smilemaker
about 18 hours later
Amber said

Good for you! Amazing that I spend so much cash on my hair! Oh yes and TIME! Sheesh! I enjoy it though and it interests me. I see the most beautiful women with long braided hair and it has the effect of making them look slimmer! And exotic! What woman wouldn't want that?

nofixedstars : assisted serendipity
about 20 hours later
nofixedstars said

i think it's fine to spend time on your hair if it is soothing and rewarding. i love the idea of someone brushing my hair for hours…must have been a gorilla in some life, all that mutual grooming seems so nice. and maybe i don't do much to mine because i'm not terribly skilled at doing hair…plus, i'm lazy. but it's funny to think about all the connotations that hair has…

Amber : Smilemaker
1 day later
Amber said

Oh I wish that I lived close! I'd brush it and put it into braids and twirl it up in amazing styles and trim of the littlest split ends and …. oh dear. I guess I have to admit. Hi, I'm Amber. I'm a patter! Do they have groups for that?!

I am soothed by the brushing of my fingers thru hair, over the bark of a tree, a pet rock, the screen door roughness of my iguana. I just love to pat things! It's a good thing that David loves to be patted or he'd go crazy! On the other hand I don't like to be patted because my skin's so sensitive that it starts to hurt if someone brushes my skin in one spot too much. So I'd be the annoying monkey picking everyone's fleas and brushing thru all the matted spots. Maybe I was a gorilla once too!

nofixedstars : assisted serendipity
1 day later
nofixedstars said

oh boy, i wish you lived close by too! and yes, they probably DO have recovery groups for people like us, as random (i.e. non-sexual, non-therapeutic) touch is not highly encouraged in our still-puritanical society…not that i plan to join one. i like it this way! patters unite!

Amber : Smilemaker
3 days later
Amber said

I guess I didn't think about that one! Hmm. Yes, the group is called Therapy and you visit it Permanently! Dear oh dear! ~grin~ Don't join one willingly! It's odd, all the girls at work and I give each other hugs without even thinking about it but the poor guys can't do that without someone thinking bad thoughts… I asked my friend Brandon to give me a hug on a particularly bad day and he did. It was so nice. I wish that we could do that more as a human species… we're so unevolved it's scary!

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